Don’t Avoid Your Job Search Because It’s Painful

There are times when looking for work just hurts, physically and mentally. This is especially true for those who are unemployed while on the hunt. Few situations force us to come to terms with fears, inadequacies and bad habits like a job search does.

Most humans have an inclination towards self-preservation. Because of this we shy away from things that prove to be painful. Pain is usually bad. It usually means we’re doing something wrong. Not always though and it’s important to make the distinction.

Let me take a moment to talk about me…surprise, surprise. Right now I’m in the beginnings of a chiropractic treatment. After years of bad habits, my neck is an absolute mess. It’s not aligned correctly and causing me problems. Dumb me, I thought the solution to my problem was going to be a simple adjustment and voila, better. Turns out that’s not how it works. My posture has been bad for a while now and is rebelling against lining up the right way. My muscles hurt. My neck hurts. To top if off, my body keeps wanting to revert back to the bad form it’s become used to, so I have to keep going back for more treatments. I also have to do special exercises, change the way I use the computer, adjust my car seat differently, try to sleep more on my back, etc. Eventually I will win the posture game, but there is no doubt I’ll have to hurt on occasion to pull of the victory. There is no way to get to the desired outcome without pain.

When mentioned this to my husband, he said it’s the same thing as having braces. The initial stages of moving your teeth hurts at times, but the end result makes the pain worthwhile. Stopping because it hurt wouldn’t solve a thing.

My point is, don’t avoid your job search because it wounds you at times. Breaking bad habits, inviting rejection, taking new risks, acknowledging faults and exposing your situation all can come with pain. The important part is making sure all of that hurt isn’t in vain. Press through it and see you end up in a better place for doing so.

1 Comment

  • Tammy says:

    Tell people that you are “in between jobs”, “looking for work” or “in transition”. Just saying that you are unemployed highlights the negative instead of focusing on what actions you are taking to find employment. You will feel better about admitting your job loss if you talk about your efforts to find work rather than focus all of your attention on the fact that you haven’t worked in weeks. Talk about where you want to go, not where you don’t want to be. It will be much less painful to start that conversation and networking your way to your next job.

    (The chiropractor is my friend too, Lisa! I have degeneration in my lumbar and neck. It got to a point where I got out of bed hunched over and unable to straighten out for hours without pain. Decompression therapy helped a great deal and now I maintain my spinal health, by taking dance classes and yoga. It has helped my posture and self-confidence tremendously. The state of my spine was probably due to many years of guitar playing in bands.)

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