Identity Crisis

My normally light brown hair is nearly black today. What happened? My stylist went a little nuts with the color last Friday. When she turned me to face the mirror, after all was said and done, my eyes about fell out of my head. “You’ll get used to it,” she said. Well, I’m on day 5 and the disconnect between my view of myself and what I see in the mirror remains. It’s possible strangers who meet me for the first time would consider it a good look for me. Those who know me well, including myself, know the truth. It’s just not Lisa.

I’m sharing my hair crisis with you for a reason. The feeling I had when I looked in the mirror wasn’t unlike what some feel when a professional resume writer shows them their finished resume. “That’s me?!” Is it though? Did the professional you trusted to make you look good pull off a successful result and capture your identity in the process? A sensational looking resume that fails to capture the real you is a flop. It may fool those who don’t take the time to get to know you, but anyone who digs deeper will notice.

Please don’t think I’m dissing professional resume writers. They can do wonders for your job search. Just because my stylist blew my color doesn’t mean I could have done a great job on my own. What I’m saying is the results you get from the professional are only as good as the understanding that person has of what you are looking to do and who you are as a person. Had my stylist and I talked through things a bit more she’d of known the color wouldn’t go over well with me. If I’d been more adamant with her when I suspected she was going off course the outcome would have been different. It’s easy to surrender our involvement and trust the professional to do his or her thing.  That’s not in either party’s best interest, however.

As for my hair, I don’t have time to fix it this week. People who cross paths with me for the near future are going to be greeted by the raven haired Lisa. There is nothing I can do about it. I will get it corrected as soon as possible. What’s worse than presenting myself to people looking like this is the thought this Lisa, who isn’t the real me, may somehow replace the genuine version in some minds. That will never do.


  • Marcia Merando says:

    OMG, that makes 2 of us! I too am feeling my hair is way too dark. Guess we can compare strands on Thursday! Too funny!

  • Cindy Kraft says:

    True words, Lisa. I always tell prospects that if there is a disconnect between who they are in person and who they appear to be on paper, the process will absolutely fail! It is imperative that a writer not only thoroughly understand their client’s background, but allow the client’s voice – not their own – to speak through the resume. It’s the only way to ensure authenticity, as well as the comfort and confidence that clients gain by being exactly who they say they are … in person and on paper.

  • Lisa says:

    Well put, Cindy.

    Marcia, we’ll definitely compare strands. I didn’t go to Amanda, actually. Probably paying the price.

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